VIKTOR FRANKL LECTURE

The following lecture was presented by Viktor Frankl, MD, on November 14, 1980, in Atlanta, Georgia. He spoke to a group of mental health-care professionals from a variety of mental health institutions and private practices. I was privileged to attend. I taped his presentation, with his permission, and later had my secretary, Elma Hill, transcribe it. I then edited it for readability.

Dr. Frankl was among the most important people of the 20th Century. He was a victim of the Nazis in the concentration camps. He was Jewish, and along with the others, suffered horrors with which the world has not yet completely reconciled. Like the book of  Job in the Old Testament, which dealt with the meaning of suffering, Frankl and other Holocaust Jews suffered horribly. However, because Frankl had the specialized training in psychiatry and medicine—and he survived the Nazi horrors—he was able to see aspects of suffering that seemed to elude the writer of Job. In any event he was able to put a more modern, scientific slant on it. His reflections on his personal suffering led him to write the book, Man’s Search For Meaning. He later developed a type of therapy, which he called logotherapy, and spent the rest of his life treating patients, writing, and lecturing. I highly recommend all of his writings for those interested, with Man’s Search For Meaning being sufficient for the general reader interested in the concept of: Why do good people have to suffer, and what can we do about it?

 

LECTURE

 

Speaking of counseling centers, I am reminded of the fact that late in the 1920’s I founded, organized, and directed the Youth Counseling Centers in Vienna, after a pattern in several other cities, all capitols of Europe. These centers had already been organized, and I then reported statistically on what had happened throughout these centers in the ensuing years in psychoanalytic journals. And it turned out that most of the people who had consulted these centers had come mostly because of sexual problems.

Then, about fifty years ago, a teacher in Vienna presented me with another study which showed a drastic change. He had invited his students to ask him questions about what was on their minds. There were questions about sex and drugs— and questions such as, “Is there life on other planets?” However, the most frequently asked questions regarded suicide among students thirteen to fourteen years of age! I suppose that now you’ll have an understanding of my contention that the scenery has markedly changed since the times of Sigmund Freud.

No longer is sex the main problem today—but existential questions are paramount! Questions, which according to the philosopher Camus, are the real philosophical concerns: whether life is worthwhile—or is suicide the one thing to commit? No longer, as in the times of psychiatrist Alfred Adler, are inferiority feelings driving our patients to psychologists and psychiatrists, but it is feelings of futility, a feeling of meaninglessness, combined with emptiness—what I have come to call the “existential vacuum.”

I coined this term “existential vacuum” as early as 1955, and since that time it has become widespread and a worldwide phenomenon. And it is worldwide, which can be seen from the fact that it is in no way restricted to our western world or culture, but it makes itself noticed in every communist country and in the third world. All this is evidenced in the scientific literature, by publications throughout communist countries and the third world. A dissertation by Dianna Young of the University of California at Berkley, shows that it is particularly the young generation that is afflicted so much by this present state of affairs, and this evidence is supported and confirmed by something that psychologist Harold Marshall, a counselor in Belleview, Washington, found out: mainly, that those in their thirties who come in for help have a sense of purposelessness, and this deteriorates into depression.

Now, speaking of depression, what comes to mind is what I usually call the “mass-erupted triad,’ mainly depression, aggression, and addiction. Let me report to you what happened a couple of years ago when a lecture of mine was scheduled in Athens, Georgia, at the University of Georgia, upon the invitation of the student body. They wrote to me that I should come, and insisted that I had to lecture under the title, Is The New Generation Mad? I was very resistant, but I couldn’t help it; I had to lecture on this subject.

Arriving in Atlanta there was a thunderstorm and the plane from Atlanta to Athens was cancelled, so I had to take a taxi at the last moment. The driver asked me several times, “What are you doing in Athens in such bad weather?” I said I had to give a lecture.

“A  lecture? Aha, upon what subject are you going to speak?”

I replied, “The title of my lecture is “Is The New generation Mad?” I told him not to laugh. “I’ll make you the final composer. I’ll take over the taxi driving and you take over my lecture.”

“Oh, I couldn’t do that,” he replied.

“Why not?” I asked. “You are much closer to the situation of the young generation than I am—and I have just arrived from Vienna!”

“Oh, I couldn’t do that.”

“Now, why don’t you tell me then, what do you believe? Is the new generation mad?”

You know what he said, literally! “Of course they’re mad. They kill themselves, they kill each other, and they take dope!”

Depression, aggression, and addiction!

How should we cope today with this mass feeling of emptiness and meaninglessness? It is very hard to do because our industrial society is eager to satisfy virtually any and every need. The consumer society of today creates, rather than just satisfies needs. And one need is forgotten—even overlooked! The most important human need, the most specific human need. This is frustrating. It is the need to see and fulfill in one’s life a meaning, a function, a mission, an assignment. This is the will to meaning, as I call it, and it is being frustrated by society and psychological science.

Due to certain reasons, which I am going to discuss later on, science and its technology supplies us with the means to live, but it cannot offer us a meaning to live for. Let me quote something a Nobel Prize physicist once allowed: “The world of natural science is lacking in whatever relates to the meaning and purpose of hope. And a similar statement has been made by Einstein.”

Now, the fact has to be acknowledged and faced that science cannot offer you any meaning and purpose. But even worse, the way in which science is transmitted in spirit to our youngsters on most of our campuses, the way young people are being indoctrinated, is such that their natural and original enthusiasm, or idealism, is undermined and eroded because of what is called reductionism. You see, often people are deploring the fact that, increasingly, scientists are specializing, losing sight of the larger picture. This is nothing to be deplored, as I see it, but what is to be deplored is just the contrary—that so many scientists who are specialists are generalizing! They are coming up with over- generalized statements about things they know little about.

Let me give you an example. My natural science teacher in high school was marching up and down the rows of students, speaking in that detached manner of his, which was so typical of the scientists of his day, poker-faced, teaching us that life, in the ultimate analysis, is nothing but a combustion process—or oxidation! I immediately jumped on my feet and threw this question to his face, “If that is so, what meaning then does our life have?” He couldn’t answer that question because he was a reductionist—or should I say an oxidationist!

One book review on Goethe goes as follows: “In the 1530 pages of this book the author portrays to us a genius, Goethe, with earmarks of mania, depression, paranoia, epileptic disorder, homosexuality, incest, voyeurism, fetishism, impotence, narcissism, obsession, compulsive neurosis, hysteria, megalomania, etc.” The author seems to focus almost exclusively upon the instinctive dynamic forces that underlie artistic problems. We are led to believe that Goethe’s work is but the result of pre-genital extensions, that he does not really aim for an idea of beauty, but for the overcoming of the embarrassing problem of premature ejaculation! This is a flagrant instance of reductionism, reducing everything down to a lower dimension.

In another book you come across the following definition of man:  “Man is nothing but a biochemically complex mechanism, powered by a combustion system, with the storage facilities for retaining and coding information.” That’s all there is to a human being, apparently.

(At this point Frankel went to a blackboard and drew a picture of cube, casting a shadow, which was a two dimensional square. Then he drew a picture of a three dimensional cylinder, which could cast two shadows: a rectangle or a circle, depending on the direction of the light source.)

Now, do not misunderstand what I am intending to say; after all I am a professor of neurology. I stand for the legitimacy to interpret the central nervous system of man in terms of action, functions, or, in computer terms. But at the same time, I insist that a computer of the human being is also more than a computer. You see, in a way, the computer is included in the human brain. But if you take a three dimensional cube and shine a light on it, it will cast only a two dimensional shadow of a square, but we know that the cube is more than its shadow. In a way the cube also is  the square, because it contains the two dimensional square, but at the same time you will note the cube is more than the square. From this projection—which is the essence of reductionism–what results is a contradiction.

Now I hope you are able to follow me with my figures I have drawn. Now you see a rectangle and a circle. In this context they are contradictions, but my contention is that the contradictions seem not to contradict the oneness of a phenomenon that is so contradictorily depicted. As you can see, the three dimensional cylinder can cast two different types of shadows: a circle and a rectangle, which are different projections (shadows) of the one cylinder,  depending on the direction of the light source. However, the circle and the rectangle are absolutely different. Now, you can well see that these two contradictions all are projections (shadows) of the one and same cylinder. Here we are taking a three dimensional object and reducing it down to two two-dimensional representations.

The same now holds for the human being. If you project a human being out of his full dimensionality into a dimension lower than his own, the result is either a biological or a psychological projection. In other words, the oneness of the human being necessarily disappears, because the oneness is only perceptible and noticeable in the next higher image, in the three dimensional space where the cylinder is residing. But as to man, the full dimension of the human phenomenon has been shut out of the realm where the dimension of his search for meaning is residing.  That is why you have to open up this dimension. You have to enter this human dimension. You have to follow man into his human dimension, if for no other reason than to understand his motivation, because unless you understand one’s motivation you are incapable of overcoming his frustration. So, you have to enter the human dimension to become cognizant of the way to meaning, and to become able to cope with the ills and ailments of our time. If one’s will to meaning is being satisfied then that human being becomes happy—only not by striving for happiness, but by pursuing meaning, because happiness only helps you as a side effect. Now, since a human being, whose will- to-meaning is being satisfied, also becomes happy, at the same time it is most interesting that he also becomes capable of suffering, of enduring tensions and frustrations, and eventually he is prepared to give his life.

Consider the various political resistance movements throughout the world and throughout history. If one’s will to meaning is being frustrated and remains unsatisfied, then one is inclined to take one’s life—and will do it in the midst of, and in spite of, affluence and welfare. What I want to convey to you is that people might have the means to live, but unless they also have a means to live for, they are threatened by depression and suicide.

Now, let us ask for a moment how it is that a psychology that is fascinated by the pattern of natural science, that such a psychology is ignoring these concepts such as meaning and purpose. I’ll try to show why this is happening.

The observation of any process immediately influences a process itself. Now, what about psychological processes? You see, the observing eye of the psychologist is fascinated by the natural science model. He observes the human being, and the human being is the subject–but the observation changes the person  into a mere object. Now, it is my personal theory that it is the essence of the subject that it has an object of its own. What do I mean by that? I just mean that the existential thinker sees the intentionality of man as an activity which focuses on something, or someone beyond himself. He sees the essence of the human being basically not concerned with anything within himself, but, on the contrary, he’s reaching beyond himself to meanings to fulfill, to other human beings to love. Now this intentionality, or this directiveness toward objects of its own, is benign, shut out, and excluded and cut off from the subject by its being made into an object. And what it finally does is that in the world in which a human being exists, and this is called being in the world, and this being with other people, rather than being concerned with homeostasis, satisfaction of drives, needs and, conditioning, etc., is being shut out.

Nevertheless, this would constitute the reasons of my act; I’m acting to a world rather than reacting to stimuli, rather than reacting to instincts and drives. The psychodynamic model depicts man abreacting to tensions. The behaviorist model depicts man as reacting to stimuli. But actually man is neither abreacting nor reacting, but is acting, and he is acting into a world of fellow human beings and of meaning, and this is shut out, so they have no reasons to act and behave. And what remains instead of the reasons are causes. Is there a difference between a reason for acting or a cause that propels me to act? There is a difference. If you cut onions, you start to cry. Your tears have a cause, but your tears have no reason. If you’re crying because your loved one has died, you would have a reason to cry. With onions it is just a cause for your tears. In other words, now that man has been made into an object there are no reasons out in the world, but only causes that call one to behave one way or the other. The causes have to be hypothesized in terms of drives, instincts, conditioning, and learning processes, so this is no longer a human being that you are doing psychology about. I hope I can make myself understood this way.

If we wish to re-humanize psychotherapy, we have to follow man into the human dimension, to become cognizant of his meaning orientation rather than his drive and instincts. Is this to say that we just dismiss science and scientific methodology? Not at all. We just have to overcome the one-sidedness.

Out of research has come the notion that meaning is available to each and every person, irrespective of his or her IQ, character structure, educationbal background, environment, etc. Even in the ghetto, meaning is available in principle, irrespective of whether one is religious or not. And if someone is religious, irrespective of the denomination to which he or she belongs, one can find meaning and principle under their religion.

More than that, we have wandered aimlessly when dealing with taboos. I came across a novel where I found the following sentence: “There is a subject nowadays which is taboo, in a way that sexuality was once taboo, which is to talk about life as if it had any meaning.” If you ask me how meaning can be found unconditionally, how it is possible that meaning can be found literally at one’s last breath, this is due to the fact that there are three avenues leading up to a meaningful life.

First, by doing the deeds created in your work, life can be made beautiful, not only in work but also in experiencing the beauty in your work and the world in general– the good in the world. Next, in experiencing not something, but someone— encountering another human being in his or her very uniqueness, which is the definition of love. Loving means experiencing another human being and becoming aware of the uniqueness of that other person.

So, we see work and love make life meaningful, but beyond that, the third avenue is that potential meaning can be found if we are caught as the helpless victims of a hopeless situation, facing an unchangeable fate. If we are caught or confronted with the fact that we are incurably ill, then there is the possibility that we bear witness to the uniquely human capacity to turn a personal predicament into a human achievement, to turn a tragedy into a triumph. And this is possible to the last breath, because even death offers an opportunity to bear witness to what a human being is capable of. It is not by coincidence that death is the final stage of growing. Even death allows for rising above one’s situation, thereby growing beyond one’s self. If we watch simple people or noble people, we may see how capable they are of turning tragedy into person triumphs, how they are capable of squeezing out meaning from the most miserable or most trivial situations.

 

Several years ago a garbage collector received the Order of Merit from the German government. This man did his job to everyone’s satisfaction, but the special effort that gave him the reward was this: He looked through the garbage for discarded toys, spent his evening hours to repair them, and gave them to poor children as presents. As a fix-it man, he added to his clean-up job a magnificent meaning.

Another man, a doctor, examined a Jewish woman who wore a bracelet. The doctor admired the bracelet, and she said the parts of the bracelet belonged to the nine children who had been killed in the Nazi gas chambers. Shocked, the doctor asked her how she could live with such a bracelet. Quietly, the Jewish woman replied, “You see, I am now in charge of an orphanage in Israel.” People are capable of squeezing out meanings of a most tragic situation. Situations that may not be able to be changed, but you can change yourself to rise above the situation and to grow beyond yourself.

There was a question that is asked: “So, do you believe that suffering is necessary in order to arrive at meaning?” My contention is that meaning is possible– in spite of suffering!

After watching the Holocaust, a Polish man involved in carrying out mass executions was asked for his reaction. He was the military organizer of the Warsaw upheaval.  He said that taking a gun and shooting someone was no  great thing. But if the SS leads you to a mass grave to execute you on the spot, or if the SS drives you to a gas chamber, and you cannot do anything about it except for keeping your head high and going your way with dignity, this is what I call a human achievement. The highest dignity goes to those who cannot do anything about their hopeless situation, but keep their heads high.

Essentially, life remains meaningful unconditionally. In other words, meaning is inexhaustible. But what is inexhaustible is energy. We live in an age of energy crises and shortages. We’re living in a post-petroleum society, as it were. Now, you see, I believe that the energy crisis is not only a threat, but offers a chance that the accent and impulses of people may shift from the means to live to a meaning to live for. This emphasis may be shifted from material goods to existential needs. Let me say that I regard the movement toward logotherapy really to be one of the human rights movements, because the focus is on the intrinsically and fundamental human rights to a life as meaningful as possible, and I think psychotherapy and counseling should do justice to this special human rights.

Now I will take questions.

QUESTION: Dr. Frankl, I’ve studied your theory of paradoxical intention and it seems that you are talking about lives reaching the point of spontaneity. Am I not mistaken that in your theory of paradoxical intention, that when you alleviate the pressure of fear or failure of a person going to sleep or sweating or stuttering, that you are really bringing that person to a point of spontaneity, and that in your logotherapy you are trying to give that person life and meaning so that he can become more spontaneous. Is that basically what you are saying?

ANSWER: Yes. What you’re saying is very interesting and a remarkable contribution to the interpretation of what really goes on in meaning-oriented logotherapy, and in that aspect of logotherapy, which deals on a more down-to-earth clinical level with phobias, obsessive compulsive neurosis, etc. My own interpretation is a bit different, but I am not the best and greatest master in practicing paradoxical intention. Other people do it much better.

QUESTION: The reason I ask you this is that I teach behavioral science to corporations, and I use your theory of paradoxical intention to eliminate the stress that executives and marketing people have been getting  to take the pressure off of fear and failure, quota systems, competitive systems, and to relate to your thirteen and fourteen year old suicidal people. I think they’re crying out for relief from the competitive system—the fear of failure—that they can’t compete, and so, consequently, they turn to drugs and suicide and what have you, and I use your theory in my work to help executives.

ANSWER: Paradoxical intention and logotherapy are moving in two direction. Paradoxical intention often remains in the psychological dimension. Many behaviors are successfully using and propagating paradoxical intention without caring for logotherapy, without caring for that dimension in which  the search for meaning exists. And I would say that there are many statistics to the effect that 90% of students attempting suicide did so because they couldn’t see meaning in their lives. I personally don’t think that suicide is due to the lack of meaning. It might be due to various reasons. When suicide attempts are not undertaken because of lack of meaning, it might well indicate that there were visions of a meaning to life of some sort, and this could have helped the respective individual to overcome the inclination to suicide. So, in such cases where people are depressed, one should not try to apply paradoxical intention to circumvent the fear of failure, but in the first place one might have to show and persuade the individual that there is also meaning to his life, and if he becomes cognizant of this, meaning he will be capable of tolerating some tensions and frustrations and not be so afraid of failure, because he would say in even cases of failure there is a lot of meaning and potential.

QUESTION: Aren’t you really saying that the person must be satisfied with himself before he can really obtain the potential of his achievements, because of the fact that he is a unique individual? Uniqueness in today’s schools is squashed. The talented, personable child is sitting in the principal’s office most of the time. Conformity is the rule. I think in order to change this we must change the values of what a child thinks success and failure are, because this is what he determines his behavior patterns by. Do you agree with this?

ANSWER: This, in a sense, I would subscribe to. But, you see, it is not is a matter of hierarchy of values, because what logotherapy is ultimately pleading for is the recognition that even the failure—or in spite of failure—meaning can be found. So people should not idealize, should not make success into an ultimate goal. They should not make success the peak of the hierarchy. This is the main misunderstanding—especially in America. People are pursuing happiness and success, but both should not be the peak of the hierarchy. Meaning, fulfillment and loving encounter are much more important, and on the contrary, striving for both success and happiness are elusive and self-defeating. If you will forgive my becoming a bit personal, I wrote a book within nine days in 1945 without my name printed on it. I wanted the book to be published anonymously, with the absolute determination and conviction that that way would not attribute anything to my reputation as a psychiatrist, but for the sake of telling people it is possible—even in the situation of Auswitz—not to doubt that life has meaning up to the last moment, and to persuade the people of that. In that book, and all our books together, this one book that I wrote within nine days with conviction was published, to become a great success. However, the less you care for success, the sooner success will come to you naturally, automatically. The less you care for your potency, in sexual pleasure and orgasm, the more you will have potency and you will have your orgasm. The more you are concerned with your potency, the more you are doomed to impotency. Love is the direction of our day-to-day practice, and you will be dismissed as a status seeker if you strive only for success. But if you let success and happiness come to you, then you’ll be much better off.

QUESTION: Would we be better off then if we didn’t teach our children success and failure as we know it today, and more that we should teach them spontaneity of their uniqueness and individuality, and let happiness be a bi-product of their spontaneity?

ANSWER: Success and happiness must remain a bi-product rather than being pursued. Let me add a warning: by spontaneity you are moving in the direction of identity and self-actualization, and if anyone should misinterpret your words let me say also that identity and self-actualization can be brought about by not caring for them. The more you love someone else the more you become happy and the more you’re actualizing yourself, and you’re finally arriving at your identity, but what is valid in no place more than in this context are the wonderful words of a German philosopher saying, “What a man is, is that he becomes  the cause which he has adopted to his own.

QUESTION: For every situation you speak of there being only one solution that is right, and we may not find that meaning, but that does not alleviate our responsibility to try to find the “one” meaning. This idea of one meaning doesn’t seem to fit into my notion or understanding of existentialism, whereby there is a situation where there is no solution and you give meaning to it yourself. If that is true then how can you find what would be the “one” meaning for each situation?

ANSWER : Potential meaning is dormant in children in a way comparable to a Gestalt figure. In a Gestalt figure you suddenly become aware of a figure against a background, but in a meaning-finding process you suddenly become aware of a possibility against the background of reality—namely the possibility to change reality. Now, if you’re confronted with this situation, there are alternatives, and if you go through all those alternatives you will find there is one solution to the problem. This cannot be done on rational terms. You have to rely on intuition and that organ, the brain, which is wired into the human being in ways that are usually referred to as our conscience. Conscience usually says to you—without having to think—what to do. There is just not subjective meaning here. There is a subjective meaningfulness available by drug usage, where suddenly everything becomes “meaningful.” But this is not true meaning. True meanings are objective, in as much as they have to be found and experienced, rather than being freely, arbitrarily attributed to the world or situations outside the person.

QUESTION: In reading your books over the years, and being very in touch with the issue of meaning, it confuses me that your theory seems to be so ethically neutral. You just touched on true meaning. Were not the guards in the camps where you were a prisioner, from their point of view, leading a meaningful life? I’d like to ask you what is the difference in a meaningful life and a good life. When I think of a meaningful life I think of Albert Switzer or Mother Teresa. I immediately assume that meaning is good, but if you’re suggesting that each of us needs to discover a meaning for ourselves without a moral context or some moral overview in which to value whether what I’m doing is meaningful and is good or wrong, then why not supply my own private meaning,  with my existential vacuum in danger of being filled possibly by a very lousy ethical attitude. Wasn’t Hitler’s demonic genius fulfilling the young Germans to a very meaningful life, as they understood it?

ANSWER: Each person in each situation offers different meaning. I’ve already intimated that it is our conscience that helps intuitively to get hold of or to grasp the meaning of the moment, in contrast to ultimate meaning or super-meaning. The conscience, in contrast to what is called a superego, might well be the result of a conditioning process. True conscience is a specifically human phenomenon, but, alas, it is also  too bound up to human frailty, limitations, incompleteness, and insufficiency. In other words, our conscience may err, and up to the last moment, up to our lying or our deathbeds, we’ll never know absolutely whether our conscience is right or not. This I regard as the principle assignment of education, not only to transmit knowledge and tradition, but also to refine our conscience so that we become able, under certain conditions, to find out our true meanings, even in tragic situations. And if you ask me an interesting sociological phenomenon, that no one has asked in Germany, but which I have been asked in America, “What would you have told Adolph Hitler if he came to your office and asked about the meaning of his life, and what should he do to obey his conscience?” Obviously, in this case of Hitler, I would have handed out the admonition that he obey his conscience, but to also carefully listen to it, because it is inconceivable to me that if Hitler had really listened to his conscience, he would never have become the monster that he was. And his conscience, in the final analysis, would have told him to try another way to re-establish that reputation of national Germany—not through a World War, genocide, etc. He would have arrived at another means. And that is the answer if you ask me such a difficult question and wish me immediately to come up with an over-simplified answer. This is also my answer to the problem of terrorism. The terrorists are living in an existential vacuum, and they try to find a mission in their lives. But if they will listen to their consciences they will become aware that there are two types of politics, two types of politicians. One  adheres to the principle that the goal justifies the means, while the other remains aware that there are means that desecrate even the most noble aim.

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CONCLUSION OF LECTURE

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The following lecture was presented by Viktor Frankl, MD, on November 14, 1980, in Atlanta, Georgia. He spoke to a group of mental health-care professionals from a variety of mental health institutions and private practices. I was privileged to attend. I taped his presentation, with his permission, and later had my secretary, Elma Hill, transcribe it. I then edited it for readability.

Dr. Frankl was among the most important people of the 20th Century. He was a victim of the Nazis in the concentration camps. He was Jewish, and along with the others, suffered horrors with which the world has not yet completely reconciled. Like the book of  Job in the Old Testament, which dealt with the meaning of suffering, Frankl and other Holocaust Jews suffered horribly. However, because Frankl had the specialized training in psychiatry and medicine—and he survived the Nazi horrors—he was able to see aspects of suffering that seemed to elude the writer of Job. In any event he was able to put a more modern, scientific slant on it. His reflections on his personal suffering led him to write the book, Man’s Search For Meaning. He later developed a type of therapy, which he called logotherapy, and spent the rest of his life treating patients, writing, and lecturing. I highly recommend all of his writings for those interested, with Man’s Search For Meaning being sufficient for the general reader interested in the concept of: Why do good people have to suffer, and what can we do about it?

 

LECTURE

 

Speaking of counseling centers, I am reminded of the fact that late in the 1920’s I founded, organized, and directed the Youth Counseling Centers in Vienna, after a pattern in several other cities, all capitols of Europe. These centers had already been organized, and I then reported statistically on what had happened throughout these centers in the ensuing years in psychoanalytic journals. And it turned out that most of the people who had consulted these centers had come mostly because of sexual problems.

Then, about fifty years ago, a teacher in Vienna presented me with another study which showed a drastic change. He had invited his students to ask him questions about what was on their minds. There were questions about sex and drugs— and questions such as, “Is there life on other planets?” However, the most frequently asked questions regarded suicide among students thirteen to fourteen years of age! I suppose that now you’ll have an understanding of my contention that the scenery has markedly changed since the times of Sigmund Freud.

No longer is sex the main problem today—but existential questions are paramount! Questions, which according to the philosopher Camus, are the real philosophical concerns: whether life is worthwhile—or is suicide the one thing to commit? No longer, as in the times of psychiatrist Alfred Adler, are inferiority feelings driving our patients to psychologists and psychiatrists, but it is feelings of futility, a feeling of meaninglessness, combined with emptiness—what I have come to call the “existential vacuum.”

I coined this term “existential vacuum” as early as 1955, and since that time it has become widespread and a worldwide phenomenon. And it is worldwide, which can be seen from the fact that it is in no way restricted to our western world or culture, but it makes itself noticed in every communist country and in the third world. All this is evidenced in the scientific literature, by publications throughout communist countries and the third world. A dissertation by Dianna Young of the University of California at Berkley, shows that it is particularly the young generation that is afflicted so much by this present state of affairs, and this evidence is supported and confirmed by something that psychologist Harold Marshall, a counselor in Belleview, Washington, found out: mainly, that those in their thirties who come in for help have a sense of purposelessness, and this deteriorates into depression.

Now, speaking of depression, what comes to mind is what I usually call the “mass-erupted triad,’ mainly depression, aggression, and addiction. Let me report to you what happened a couple of years ago when a lecture of mine was scheduled in Athens, Georgia, at the University of Georgia, upon the invitation of the student body. They wrote to me that I should come, and insisted that I had to lecture under the title, Is The New Generation Mad? I was very resistant, but I couldn’t help it; I had to lecture on this subject.

Arriving in Atlanta there was a thunderstorm and the plane from Atlanta to Athens was cancelled, so I had to take a taxi at the last moment. The driver asked me several times, “What are you doing in Athens in such bad weather?” I said I had to give a lecture.

“A  lecture? Aha, upon what subject are you going to speak?”

I replied, “The title of my lecture is “Is The New generation Mad?” I told him not to laugh. “I’ll make you the final composer. I’ll take over the taxi driving and you take over my lecture.”

“Oh, I couldn’t do that,” he replied.

“Why not?” I asked. “You are much closer to the situation of the young generation than I am—and I have just arrived from Vienna!”

“Oh, I couldn’t do that.”

“Now, why don’t you tell me then, what do you believe? Is the new generation mad?”

You know what he said, literally! “Of course they’re mad. They kill themselves, they kill each other, and they take dope!”

Depression, aggression, and addiction!

How should we cope today with this mass feeling of emptiness and meaninglessness? It is very hard to do because our industrial society is eager to satisfy virtually any and every need. The consumer society of today creates, rather than just satisfies needs. And one need is forgotten—even overlooked! The most important human need, the most specific human need. This is frustrating. It is the need to see and fulfill in one’s life a meaning, a function, a mission, an assignment. This is the will to meaning, as I call it, and it is being frustrated by society and psychological science.

Due to certain reasons, which I am going to discuss later on, science and its technology supplies us with the means to live, but it cannot offer us a meaning to live for. Let me quote something a Nobel Prize physicist once allowed: “The world of natural science is lacking in whatever relates to the meaning and purpose of hope. And a similar statement has been made by Einstein.”

Now, the fact has to be acknowledged and faced that science cannot offer you any meaning and purpose. But even worse, the way in which science is transmitted in spirit to our youngsters on most of our campuses, the way young people are being indoctrinated, is such that their natural and original enthusiasm, or idealism, is undermined and eroded because of what is called reductionism. You see, often people are deploring the fact that, increasingly, scientists are specializing, losing sight of the larger picture. This is nothing to be deplored, as I see it, but what is to be deplored is just the contrary—that so many scientists who are specialists are generalizing! They are coming up with over- generalized statements about things they know little about.

Let me give you an example. My natural science teacher in high school was marching up and down the rows of students, speaking in that detached manner of his, which was so typical of the scientists of his day, poker-faced, teaching us that life, in the ultimate analysis, is nothing but a combustion process—or oxidation! I immediately jumped on my feet and threw this question to his face, “If that is so, what meaning then does our life have?” He couldn’t answer that question because he was a reductionist—or should I say an oxidationist!

One book review on Goethe goes as follows: “In the 1530 pages of this book the author portrays to us a genius, Goethe, with earmarks of mania, depression, paranoia, epileptic disorder, homosexuality, incest, voyeurism, fetishism, impotence, narcissism, obsession, compulsive neurosis, hysteria, megalomania, etc.” The author seems to focus almost exclusively upon the instinctive dynamic forces that underlie artistic problems. We are led to believe that Goethe’s work is but the result of pre-genital extensions, that he does not really aim for an idea of beauty, but for the overcoming of the embarrassing problem of premature ejaculation! This is a flagrant instance of reductionism, reducing everything down to a lower dimension.

In another book you come across the following definition of man:  “Man is nothing but a biochemically complex mechanism, powered by a combustion system, with the storage facilities for retaining and coding information.” That’s all there is to a human being, apparently.

(At this point Frankel went to a blackboard and drew a picture of cube, casting a shadow, which was a two dimensional square. Then he drew a picture of a three dimensional cylinder, which could cast two shadows: a rectangle or a circle, depending on the direction of the light source.)

Now, do not misunderstand what I am intending to say; after all I am a professor of neurology. I stand for the legitimacy to interpret the central nervous system of man in terms of action, functions, or, in computer terms. But at the same time, I insist that a computer of the human being is also more than a computer. You see, in a way, the computer is included in the human brain. But if you take a three dimensional cube and shine a light on it, it will cast only a two dimensional shadow of a square, but we know that the cube is more than its shadow. In a way the cube also is  the square, because it contains the two dimensional square, but at the same time you will note the cube is more than the square. From this projection—which is the essence of reductionism–what results is a contradiction.

Now I hope you are able to follow me with my figures I have drawn. Now you see a rectangle and a circle. In this context they are contradictions, but my contention is that the contradictions seem not to contradict the oneness of a phenomenon that is so contradictorily depicted. As you can see, the three dimensional cylinder can cast two different types of shadows: a circle and a rectangle, which are different projections (shadows) of the one cylinder,  depending on the direction of the light source. However, the circle and the rectangle are absolutely different. Now, you can well see that these two contradictions all are projections (shadows) of the one and same cylinder. Here we are taking a three dimensional object and reducing it down to two two-dimensional representations.

The same now holds for the human being. If you project a human being out of his full dimensionality into a dimension lower than his own, the result is either a biological or a psychological projection. In other words, the oneness of the human being necessarily disappears, because the oneness is only perceptible and noticeable in the next higher image, in the three dimensional space where the cylinder is residing. But as to man, the full dimension of the human phenomenon has been shut out of the realm where the dimension of his search for meaning is residing.  That is why you have to open up this dimension. You have to enter this human dimension. You have to follow man into his human dimension, if for no other reason than to understand his motivation, because unless you understand one’s motivation you are incapable of overcoming his frustration. So, you have to enter the human dimension to become cognizant of the way to meaning, and to become able to cope with the ills and ailments of our time. If one’s will to meaning is being satisfied then that human being becomes happy—only not by striving for happiness, but by pursuing meaning, because happiness only helps you as a side effect. Now, since a human being, whose will- to-meaning is being satisfied, also becomes happy, at the same time it is most interesting that he also becomes capable of suffering, of enduring tensions and frustrations, and eventually he is prepared to give his life.

Consider the various political resistance movements throughout the world and throughout history. If one’s will to meaning is being frustrated and remains unsatisfied, then one is inclined to take one’s life—and will do it in the midst of, and in spite of, affluence and welfare. What I want to convey to you is that people might have the means to live, but unless they also have a means to live for, they are threatened by depression and suicide.

Now, let us ask for a moment how it is that a psychology that is fascinated by the pattern of natural science, that such a psychology is ignoring these concepts such as meaning and purpose. I’ll try to show why this is happening.

The observation of any process immediately influences a process itself. Now, what about psychological processes? You see, the observing eye of the psychologist is fascinated by the natural science model. He observes the human being, and the human being is the subject–but the observation changes the person  into a mere object. Now, it is my personal theory that it is the essence of the subject that it has an object of its own. What do I mean by that? I just mean that the existential thinker sees the intentionality of man as an activity which focuses on something, or someone beyond himself. He sees the essence of the human being basically not concerned with anything within himself, but, on the contrary, he’s reaching beyond himself to meanings to fulfill, to other human beings to love. Now this intentionality, or this directiveness toward objects of its own, is benign, shut out, and excluded and cut off from the subject by its being made into an object. And what it finally does is that in the world in which a human being exists, and this is called being in the world, and this being with other people, rather than being concerned with homeostasis, satisfaction of drives, needs and, conditioning, etc., is being shut out.

Nevertheless, this would constitute the reasons of my act; I’m acting to a world rather than reacting to stimuli, rather than reacting to instincts and drives. The psychodynamic model depicts man abreacting to tensions. The behaviorist model depicts man as reacting to stimuli. But actually man is neither abreacting nor reacting, but is acting, and he is acting into a world of fellow human beings and of meaning, and this is shut out, so they have no reasons to act and behave. And what remains instead of the reasons are causes. Is there a difference between a reason for acting or a cause that propels me to act? There is a difference. If you cut onions, you start to cry. Your tears have a cause, but your tears have no reason. If you’re crying because your loved one has died, you would have a reason to cry. With onions it is just a cause for your tears. In other words, now that man has been made into an object there are no reasons out in the world, but only causes that call one to behave one way or the other. The causes have to be hypothesized in terms of drives, instincts, conditioning, and learning processes, so this is no longer a human being that you are doing psychology about. I hope I can make myself understood this way.

If we wish to re-humanize psychotherapy, we have to follow man into the human dimension, to become cognizant of his meaning orientation rather than his drive and instincts. Is this to say that we just dismiss science and scientific methodology? Not at all. We just have to overcome the one-sidedness.

Out of research has come the notion that meaning is available to each and every person, irrespective of his or her IQ, character structure, educationbal background, environment, etc. Even in the ghetto, meaning is available in principle, irrespective of whether one is religious or not. And if someone is religious, irrespective of the denomination to which he or she belongs, one can find meaning and principle under their religion.

More than that, we have wandered aimlessly when dealing with taboos. I came across a novel where I found the following sentence: “There is a subject nowadays which is taboo, in a way that sexuality was once taboo, which is to talk about life as if it had any meaning.” If you ask me how meaning can be found unconditionally, how it is possible that meaning can be found literally at one’s last breath, this is due to the fact that there are three avenues leading up to a meaningful life.

First, by doing the deeds created in your work, life can be made beautiful, not only in work but also in experiencing the beauty in your work and the world in general– the good in the world. Next, in experiencing not something, but someone— encountering another human being in his or her very uniqueness, which is the definition of love. Loving means experiencing another human being and becoming aware of the uniqueness of that other person.

So, we see work and love make life meaningful, but beyond that, the third avenue is that potential meaning can be found if we are caught as the helpless victims of a hopeless situation, facing an unchangeable fate. If we are caught or confronted with the fact that we are incurably ill, then there is the possibility that we bear witness to the uniquely human capacity to turn a personal predicament into a human achievement, to turn a tragedy into a triumph. And this is possible to the last breath, because even death offers an opportunity to bear witness to what a human being is capable of. It is not by coincidence that death is the final stage of growing. Even death allows for rising above one’s situation, thereby growing beyond one’s self. If we watch simple people or noble people, we may see how capable they are of turning tragedy into person triumphs, how they are capable of squeezing out meaning from the most miserable or most trivial situations.

 

Several years ago a garbage collector received the Order of Merit from the German government. This man did his job to everyone’s satisfaction, but the special effort that gave him the reward was this: He looked through the garbage for discarded toys, spent his evening hours to repair them, and gave them to poor children as presents. As a fix-it man, he added to his clean-up job a magnificent meaning.

Another man, a doctor, examined a Jewish woman who wore a bracelet. The doctor admired the bracelet, and she said the parts of the bracelet belonged to the nine children who had been killed in the Nazi gas chambers. Shocked, the doctor asked her how she could live with such a bracelet. Quietly, the Jewish woman replied, “You see, I am now in charge of an orphanage in Israel.” People are capable of squeezing out meanings of a most tragic situation. Situations that may not be able to be changed, but you can change yourself to rise above the situation and to grow beyond yourself.

There was a question that is asked: “So, do you believe that suffering is necessary in order to arrive at meaning?” My contention is that meaning is possible– in spite of suffering!

After watching the Holocaust, a Polish man involved in carrying out mass executions was asked for his reaction. He was the military organizer of the Warsaw upheaval.  He said that taking a gun and shooting someone was no  great thing. But if the SS leads you to a mass grave to execute you on the spot, or if the SS drives you to a gas chamber, and you cannot do anything about it except for keeping your head high and going your way with dignity, this is what I call a human achievement. The highest dignity goes to those who cannot do anything about their hopeless situation, but keep their heads high.

Essentially, life remains meaningful unconditionally. In other words, meaning is inexhaustible. But what is inexhaustible is energy. We live in an age of energy crises and shortages. We’re living in a post-petroleum society, as it were. Now, you see, I believe that the energy crisis is not only a threat, but offers a chance that the accent and impulses of people may shift from the means to live to a meaning to live for. This emphasis may be shifted from material goods to existential needs. Let me say that I regard the movement toward logotherapy really to be one of the human rights movements, because the focus is on the intrinsically and fundamental human rights to a life as meaningful as possible, and I think psychotherapy and counseling should do justice to this special human rights.

Now I will take questions.

QUESTION: Dr. Frankl, I’ve studied your theory of paradoxical intention and it seems that you are talking about lives reaching the point of spontaneity. Am I not mistaken that in your theory of paradoxical intention, that when you alleviate the pressure of fear or failure of a person going to sleep or sweating or stuttering, that you are really bringing that person to a point of spontaneity, and that in your logotherapy you are trying to give that person life and meaning so that he can become more spontaneous. Is that basically what you are saying?

ANSWER: Yes. What you’re saying is very interesting and a remarkable contribution to the interpretation of what really goes on in meaning-oriented logotherapy, and in that aspect of logotherapy, which deals on a more down-to-earth clinical level with phobias, obsessive compulsive neurosis, etc. My own interpretation is a bit different, but I am not the best and greatest master in practicing paradoxical intention. Other people do it much better.

QUESTION: The reason I ask you this is that I teach behavioral science to corporations, and I use your theory of paradoxical intention to eliminate the stress that executives and marketing people have been getting  to take the pressure off of fear and failure, quota systems, competitive systems, and to relate to your thirteen and fourteen year old suicidal people. I think they’re crying out for relief from the competitive system—the fear of failure—that they can’t compete, and so, consequently, they turn to drugs and suicide and what have you, and I use your theory in my work to help executives.

ANSWER: Paradoxical intention and logotherapy are moving in two direction. Paradoxical intention often remains in the psychological dimension. Many behaviors are successfully using and propagating paradoxical intention without caring for logotherapy, without caring for that dimension in which  the search for meaning exists. And I would say that there are many statistics to the effect that 90% of students attempting suicide did so because they couldn’t see meaning in their lives. I personally don’t think that suicide is due to the lack of meaning. It might be due to various reasons. When suicide attempts are not undertaken because of lack of meaning, it might well indicate that there were visions of a meaning to life of some sort, and this could have helped the respective individual to overcome the inclination to suicide. So, in such cases where people are depressed, one should not try to apply paradoxical intention to circumvent the fear of failure, but in the first place one might have to show and persuade the individual that there is also meaning to his life, and if he becomes cognizant of this, meaning he will be capable of tolerating some tensions and frustrations and not be so afraid of failure, because he would say in even cases of failure there is a lot of meaning and potential.

QUESTION: Aren’t you really saying that the person must be satisfied with himself before he can really obtain the potential of his achievements, because of the fact that he is a unique individual? Uniqueness in today’s schools is squashed. The talented, personable child is sitting in the principal’s office most of the time. Conformity is the rule. I think in order to change this we must change the values of what a child thinks success and failure are, because this is what he determines his behavior patterns by. Do you agree with this?

ANSWER: This, in a sense, I would subscribe to. But, you see, it is not is a matter of hierarchy of values, because what logotherapy is ultimately pleading for is the recognition that even the failure—or in spite of failure—meaning can be found. So people should not idealize, should not make success into an ultimate goal. They should not make success the peak of the hierarchy. This is the main misunderstanding—especially in America. People are pursuing happiness and success, but both should not be the peak of the hierarchy. Meaning, fulfillment and loving encounter are much more important, and on the contrary, striving for both success and happiness are elusive and self-defeating. If you will forgive my becoming a bit personal, I wrote a book within nine days in 1945 without my name printed on it. I wanted the book to be published anonymously, with the absolute determination and conviction that that way would not attribute anything to my reputation as a psychiatrist, but for the sake of telling people it is possible—even in the situation of Auswitz—not to doubt that life has meaning up to the last moment, and to persuade the people of that. In that book, and all our books together, this one book that I wrote within nine days with conviction was published, to become a great success. However, the less you care for success, the sooner success will come to you naturally, automatically. The less you care for your potency, in sexual pleasure and orgasm, the more you will have potency and you will have your orgasm. The more you are concerned with your potency, the more you are doomed to impotency. Love is the direction of our day-to-day practice, and you will be dismissed as a status seeker if you strive only for success. But if you let success and happiness come to you, then you’ll be much better off.

QUESTION: Would we be better off then if we didn’t teach our children success and failure as we know it today, and more that we should teach them spontaneity of their uniqueness and individuality, and let happiness be a bi-product of their spontaneity?

ANSWER: Success and happiness must remain a bi-product rather than being pursued. Let me add a warning: by spontaneity you are moving in the direction of identity and self-actualization, and if anyone should misinterpret your words let me say also that identity and self-actualization can be brought about by not caring for them. The more you love someone else the more you become happy and the more you’re actualizing yourself, and you’re finally arriving at your identity, but what is valid in no place more than in this context are the wonderful words of a German philosopher saying, “What a man is, is that he becomes  the cause which he has adopted to his own.

QUESTION: For every situation you speak of there being only one solution that is right, and we may not find that meaning, but that does not alleviate our responsibility to try to find the “one” meaning. This idea of one meaning doesn’t seem to fit into my notion or understanding of existentialism, whereby there is a situation where there is no solution and you give meaning to it yourself. If that is true then how can you find what would be the “one” meaning for each situation?

ANSWER : Potential meaning is dormant in children in a way comparable to a Gestalt figure. In a Gestalt figure you suddenly become aware of a figure against a background, but in a meaning-finding process you suddenly become aware of a possibility against the background of reality—namely the possibility to change reality. Now, if you’re confronted with this situation, there are alternatives, and if you go through all those alternatives you will find there is one solution to the problem. This cannot be done on rational terms. You have to rely on intuition and that organ, the brain, which is wired into the human being in ways that are usually referred to as our conscience. Conscience usually says to you—without having to think—what to do. There is just not subjective meaning here. There is a subjective meaningfulness available by drug usage, where suddenly everything becomes “meaningful.” But this is not true meaning. True meanings are objective, in as much as they have to be found and experienced, rather than being freely, arbitrarily attributed to the world or situations outside the person.

QUESTION: In reading your books over the years, and being very in touch with the issue of meaning, it confuses me that your theory seems to be so ethically neutral. You just touched on true meaning. Were not the guards in the camps where you were a prisioner, from their point of view, leading a meaningful life? I’d like to ask you what is the difference in a meaningful life and a good life. When I think of a meaningful life I think of Albert Switzer or Mother Teresa. I immediately assume that meaning is good, but if you’re suggesting that each of us needs to discover a meaning for ourselves without a moral context or some moral overview in which to value whether what I’m doing is meaningful and is good or wrong, then why not supply my own private meaning,  with my existential vacuum in danger of being filled possibly by a very lousy ethical attitude. Wasn’t Hitler’s demonic genius fulfilling the young Germans to a very meaningful life, as they understood it?

ANSWER: Each person in each situation offers different meaning. I’ve already intimated that it is our conscience that helps intuitively to get hold of or to grasp the meaning of the moment, in contrast to ultimate meaning or super-meaning. The conscience, in contrast to what is called a superego, might well be the result of a conditioning process. True conscience is a specifically human phenomenon, but, alas, it is also  too bound up to human frailty, limitations, incompleteness, and insufficiency. In other words, our conscience may err, and up to the last moment, up to our lying or our deathbeds, we’ll never know absolutely whether our conscience is right or not. This I regard as the principle assignment of education, not only to transmit knowledge and tradition, but also to refine our conscience so that we become able, under certain conditions, to find out our true meanings, even in tragic situations. And if you ask me an interesting sociological phenomenon, that no one has asked in Germany, but which I have been asked in America, “What would you have told Adolph Hitler if he came to your office and asked about the meaning of his life, and what should he do to obey his conscience?” Obviously, in this case of Hitler, I would have handed out the admonition that he obey his conscience, but to also carefully listen to it, because it is inconceivable to me that if Hitler had really listened to his conscience, he would never have become the monster that he was. And his conscience, in the final analysis, would have told him to try another way to re-establish that reputation of national Germany—not through a World War, genocide, etc. He would have arrived at another means. And that is the answer if you ask me such a difficult question and wish me immediately to come up with an over-simplified answer. This is also my answer to the problem of terrorism. The terrorists are living in an existential vacuum, and they try to find a mission in their lives. But if they will listen to their consciences they will become aware that there are two types of politics, two types of politicians. One  adheres to the principle that the goal justifies the means, while the other remains aware that there are means that desecrate even the most noble aim.

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CONCLUSION OF LECTURE

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TAG YOUR BOOTS

TAG YOUR BOOTS

By

Joe Wilkins, Copyright © 2015

(This essay will prove uncomfortable to some readers. I wish it were not so, but hard reality is often that way.  Contained herein is a point of view formed over a long counseling career, working with, and trying to help some of the most dysfunctional people in our society. I am demonstrating one system than can be helpful in dealing with unwanted, deviant behavior in our society. It is not the only way to approach the problem, but I contend it is the simplest, most effective way. These ideas are incorporated in Chapter 7, “Tough Love,” of my book How To Raise Successful Children, which is available on Amazon.com.

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Many people today are wondering what is wrong with America? They see crime rising, illegitimate births increasing, illegal immigrants flooding across our borders, a criminal justice system that is more responsive to criminals than to the victims, illegal drugs readily available on many street corners, health care costs rising astronomically, unemployment and poverty increasing, and the national debt skyrocketing. In fact, the problems are so numerous that it is becoming almost impossible to feel what is right with America. And this is causing a low-grade pessimism among the people that is settling over our country like a smothering fog. Most of us do not like it, but we don’t know what, or how, to change it.

Well, there are some things we can do, as illustrated by the following true story.

The United States Marine Corps sends all new recruits to Paris Island, South Carolina for basic training—or for physical and attitude adjustment training, as an ex-Marine friend of mine puts it. These recruits come from all over the country, from all lifestyles, different races, educational levels, and social backgrounds—about as diverse a group one could find. In addition, these men present a special problem to the Marine Corps: in just twelve weeks, the Corps has to get all these different personalities thinking and working alike, with there being little room for individualism. The realities of combat demand they work together as disciplined units, ready to defend our country on a moment’s notice should the need arise.

Seems like an impossible task, doesn’t it? Especially in view of the fact that many other organizations, which have the need to get people working toward society’s goals, are unable to do so. Consider families that can’t get their children to behave; parole boards that are unable to get newly released prisoners to obey the laws; welfare agencies that can’t get people to quit having babies they can’t take care of; treatment facilities that can’t make alcoholics and drug addicts stay clean and sober; abused women who can’t get their husbands to stop beating them. The list is endless, and you could doubtless add many of you own examples.

Nevertheless, I contend there is a way to control such behaviors, if we can only muster up the gumption to take the appropriate actions. And the Marine Corps can show us a productive way.

The year was 1967 and the war in Viet Nam was cooking. The Marines needed new men in large numbers—fast! For one particular platoon it was the tenth week of their basic training, with only two weeks to go. The men were doing well, looking forward to graduation and becoming full-fledged marines.

“Everyone fall out tomorrow for a twenty-mile, forced march,” announced their drill instructor. “I want full field packs—with helmets, double ammo, full canteens–and take an extra pair of boots. Don’t leave anything behind because you’re going to need all your gear. I want you fully outfitted and prepared for anything that might come up.”

The next morning off they marched, each man loaded down with over fifty pounds of gear, headed for Ellis Beach, ten miles away. Finally, after marching, hot and tired, they arrived at the beach, with their feet hurting, and their packs now seeming to weigh hundreds of pounds. They had been resting just a few moments when a truck rumbled up alongside the platoon.

“Okay,” the drill instructor barked out, “rest a minute, drink some water, then take off your boots, tie them together with these tags I’m handing out. Put your last name and serial number on the tags and throw your boots on the truck. Then get out your spare boots and put ‘em on. We’ll be marching back in five minutes.”

Immediately the men hustled to comply with his orders—except for one man. That lone, non-compliant recruit just stood there, looking despondent and hopeless. The drill instructor noticed him soon, and bellowed in his face, “What’s wrong, Marine? Didn’t you hear me? Tag those boots!”

“But, sir—I—I can’t,” he blurted out in desperation.

“And why not?” challenged the drill instructor.

“Because I didn’t bring my extra boots.”

“Well, that’s just too bad. Off with those boots—now!”

The recruit was desperate now. “But, sir, he implored, “I’ll have to march back barefooted.”

The drill instructor was losing patience. “Tag those boots!” he screamed.

The recruit immediately sat down and hurriedly took off his boots. He looked around at the others, but realized there would be no sympathy from them. There was disdain and condemnation in their faces.

Then the platoon began the march back. They hiked through scrub and briars, palmettos and sandspurs, hot asphalt and concrete. The drill instructor intentionally made the trip back more difficult, causing the barefooted recruit all the pain imaginable. After a while, the recruit could take no more, and dropped out of formation by the side of the road, while the others marched on. He was then ordered into the truck and taken straight to the brig, where he “cooled his heels” for several days, wondering nervously what was going to happen to him. However, after the drill instructor figured he had “learned his lesson,” he rejoined his platoon. He was a model marine from then on.

The recruit had learned his lesson well—and fast. Very few words were exchanged. No attempts were made to find out why he had left his boots behind. He was not referred to a counselor to determine the source of his rebellion and passive-aggressive anger toward the Marine Corps. No attempt was made to reason with him. There was no getting the other men involved, other than they had only viewed his behavior, and how he was dealt with. This was a simple case of, “If you don’t do as I say, then something bad will happen to you!” Tag your boots!

Now some readers may think the drill instructor was too harsh, that the punishment was cruel and unusual. However, others may think he should have been made to march the whole way back, and, doubtless, some drill instructors may have done just that. But the bottom line is the technique worked. The Marines Corps reinforced its authority, the recruit learned a valuable lesson, the platoon progressed forward, and everyone graduated from basic training as full-fledged marines. One could wonder what kind of marines they would have become if the wayward recruit had gotten away with his scheme and was not punished. I contend the platoon would not have been as dedicated and efficient. Thus, the punishment was appropriate.

With this incident, we see illustrated a principle that is the whole point of this essay: if we want to prevent people from committing certain objectionable behaviors, then we must follow their misdeeds   with consequences they do not want to happen. However, this punishment must be used selectively and in an appropriate manner. It’s clear that “tagging your boots” is one form of punishment, and punishment is looked upon as anathema by many in our society. Some even view punishment as evil, and should be avoided at all costs. A few years ago, a young man in Singapore broke one of their laws, and was sentenced to be whipped with canes, causing a tremendous uproar around the world—especially with a huge portion of American society, incensed that Singapore would have the audacity to punish a lawbreaker in such a manner.

Since punishment is looked upon by many as one might view a rattlesnake, the science of psychology might allay those feelings somewhat. Scientific studies have repeatedly shown that learned responses of avoidance and fear have a strong impact on our personality development when we are young. Punishment is essential to the development of these inhibitory emotions, which help control inappropriate behaviors that do not serve the individual and the community well. People with no fear and guilt can be dangerous, because they have no internal “inhibitors” that prevent them from committing certain deeds. Conversely, people with a healthy set of fear and guilt feelings are not likely to break many of society’s rules or laws, because these are feelings people tend to avoid, thus the behavior causing them rarely occurs. Misdeeds committed by those who don’t feel guilty—because they weren’t punished as children in a responsible, loving manner—will be repeated over and over.

Other research shows that, with young boys, it is more important that the father administer such discipline rather than the mother. A mother simply has less power to instill appropriate fear and guilt in a son than does the father—although the mother does have some influence. However, as young boys mature, the social-identity process impels them toward males as role models, and a good father is the best model.

This speaks to a disturbing trend currently in our society, whereby we condone and reward single motherhood, producing legions of young men who do not know how to behave as responsible males, because they adopt males outside their families as role models, males who do not always have their best interests at heart. An adolescent male, loaded with testosterone and aggressive hormones, who has not been taught by significant males the proper roles of guilt, shame, and fear, is trouble on the rise. This capacity for fear and guilt is the end product of a sequence of child-rearing activities, using love-oriented punishment, leading to strong identification with the same sex parent. To put it more simply, the best drill instructors for young men in boot camp are males.

One study showed that many anti-social boys tend to come from those homes where the parents were cold, distant, or absent—not from homes that disciplined and punished with love. Sparing the loving rod of discipline tends to produce incomplete children.

Social psychology clearly shows us the complexity of reward and punishment on the development of children’s moral codes and inhibitions, with their willingness to follow society’s rules. Most criminals are people who have not been taught when they were young how to behave properly. However, parents are not totally to blame here: the schools, TV, literature, peers, gangs, and other aspects of our society share in the upbringing of our children, and often teach and reinforce many negative attitudes and behavior. If one accepts the premise that the total society is to blame for criminal behavior, we are then left with a huge, apparently unsolvable dilemma: that, in a free republic, we can’t seem to unite sufficiently to control all these dysfunctional “teachers” of our children to prevent the production of criminals. So, we throw up our hands in despair and do little to solve the problem.

However, complaining is but a temporary catharsis, engaged in by politicians, the media, and citizens of rhetoric. Sensible people know that once our wayward children reach adulthood, as a practical matter, it’s too late to teach them those lessons they needed to learn as children. The horse is already out of the barn, so to speak.

Thus, with the adult criminal we are left with only one option: we have to do whatever is necessary to prevent people from committing crimes. We can’t go inside the heads of such people and change dysfunctional attitudes at this late date—something that is only occassionaly possible using psychotherapeutic techniques, which are slow and prohibitively expensive, and rarely work. (That old joke applies very well here: How many counselors does it take to change a light bulb? A lot, but the bulb has to really want to change.) Thus for people who  continuously break laws, if they have no internal roadmap of fear or guilt to stop them, then we as a society must give them some sort of external fear that will stop them. We have to use the threat of punishment to stop their misdeeds. It’s our primary option. Tag your boots!

In alcohol and drug treatment there is a rule that says that once someone becomes physically addicted, they will never be able to safely drink or use drugs again without suffering serious—and often fatal—consequences. Only when the addict arrives at the point where this reality is true for him or her, is there an improved chance for sobriety. If the addict realizes that continued use of alcohol or drugs will cause that person to die or go crazy, there will then be an improved chance for sobriety. The chemical that the addict used to love and cherish so much, becomes the punisher. Tag your boots!

Next, consider the drug smuggler. Anyone with the proper know-how can fly to south America, buy some cocaine, re-enter the United States, sell the cocaine, and make a huge profit, with very little chance of getting caught. This behavior is going on all the time, as many of my former clients related to me in detail. And these smugglers are killing and ruining more lives than can be imagined—costing our society an enormous price. But the drug dealers do not care, and they feel no guilt or fear. Their motivation is greed, with no concern about the human destruction they are causing. There is no little voice inside them saying, “Don’t do that! It’s wrong!” They do it anyway.

The question has become, how do we stop them? Over the years, we have tried many things that do not work: rehabilitation programs, weak prison terms, confiscation of ill-gotten property, increasing public awareness, and patrolling the nation’s point of entries. And each year the smuggling and drug abuse increases, while the public demands more drugs.

But there’s one thing we haven’t done; we have not made these smugglers and dealers tag their boots. How can we do this? Pass and implement laws that say, “If you smuggle drugs into this country, or sell drugs, we’ll catch you, and when we do you will be quickly prosecuted–and executed.” Then the public can sit back and watch the drug trafficking grind to a halt. Tag your boots.

Next, consider illegal immigration. This problem is now out of control, and the Congress and the President hasn’t the knowledge or will to fix it. Some people abroad have the notion that America is the solution to the world’s problems, with the effect that many people in less fortunate parts of the world want to come to America to improve their lives—and there are many Americans willing to let them come, legal or not. Thus, each day thousands of illegal immigrants slip across our borders. If we continue to allow this, it can bankrupt our social-welfare, educational, and work-related systems. With the world’s population projected to double within the next fifty years, the conditions pushing this illegal immigration trend will only increase, thus the problem is not going away.

To get a true fix on the current immigration situation, look at it from an illegal immigrant’s perspective. Here he is living in Mexico or Central America, living in squalor, with no job, no hope for the future, too many children, and a poor societal support system. His children will have a worse life than him, because the future is grim.  The population is exploding out of control, resources are dwindling, and the political leaders are helpless to turn things around. It is evident that everyone will have to do with less. However, he has learned that in America, there exists everything he wants and needs. So, one night he slips across the border—and it doesn’t matter if the border patrol sees him or not, because he knows they are under orders not to use force. Eventually he will get a job from someone who is desperate for cheap labor, who will pay him with cash that will not be reported to the government. And even if he is caught, they will simply load him onto an air-conditioned bus and drive him back across the border, where he will keep trying to cross again. He can’t lose. And once he finally gets settled in America, he can manipulate the system, get some welfare benefits and food stamps, make arrangements to get his family across, and send his children to the wonderful, free schools. What a country!

But one thing bothers him; he heard one border guard being interviewed on the radio, saying that thousands of illegal immigrants cross the border each day, and he is powerless to stop them, because he has been forbidden to use force. All he can do is holler on the bullhorn and tell them to go back home—which they never do because there is no punishment for crossing the border. Then the guard says that if he were allowed to shoot just one immigrant—after fair warning—the immigrant flow would stop. It is certain that if prospective illegal immigrants knew they would be shot if they attempted the crossing, they wouldn’t try it. And if no one tried it, no one would be shot. But there is no boot- tagging in the US Immigration Service.

Already some  readers of this essay are squirming and shifting in their chairs. They think this is too extreme—shooting illegal immigrants! What would the carnage be like? Moreover, how do you shoot just one illegal immigrant. America is constitutionally incapable of doing this, given the current state of the American psyche. However, there would be less carnage with boot-tagging than without it, and I am sure we could develop other boot-tagging options to replace the shooting of immigrants.  With swift, sure consequences hanging over their heads, most people will quit doing those things they shouldn’t. And those few who continue their bad ways—and are dealt with severely—wouldn’t get much sympathy from most Americans. We will save that for the victims.

A woman friend of mine married a man from Iran, with whom she had three sons. Occasionally they would go back to Iran to visit his relatives. One day she absent-mindedly left her purse, with considerable cash in it, on a store counter for several hours after leaving. When she realized what she had done, she rushed back to the store to retrieve it—and it was still in the same place where she had left it. All her cash and possessions were still within; no one had touched or disturbed it. She said that was not unusual in Iran because there is little thievery. Why? Because in Iran, convicted thieves are punished by having a hand cut off! And she said she didn’t see anyone with missing hands. She concluded that thievery had been abolished in Iran. Tag your boots!

Consider the traffic light. Did you ever notice that everyone stops for the red light: rich, poor, crooks, the mentally ill, drunks, rapists, murderers, middle-class, lower-class, high-class—virtually every- one in societies around the world. You name the group and they all stop for red lights. Why do they obey this rule, yet disregard others that we value, which are just as important? It is because the consequence of going through a red light is a boot-tagging situation, whereby the offender stands a high probability of being smashed into by another vehicle.

A counselor friend of mine tells the story about a relative of his in rural Alabama, who had a husband who was “bad to drink,” as they called drunkenness in that area. For years this alcoholic’s main form of recreation was to get roaring drunk several times a month, then come home and beat  up and terrorize his wife and children. His wife had endured this for years because she had been taught by her parents and her church to be subservient and obedient to her husband.

But the day came when her tolerance was exhausted; she could endure it no more. One day he came home drunk again, and began calling her derogatory names–then began hitting her. That did it!

For all those years, she had endured his abuse—but no more! This was it—her pot was boiling over! This enraged woman, suddenly energized to the strength of Wonder Woman by her years of pent-up anger, knocked her staggering husband to the floor with a mighty blow with her fist. Then she jumped on top of him, grabbed him by both ears and began beating his head on the floor, screaming, “You drunken bastard, you no-good-son-of-a-bitch, you lousy excuse of a man. I’m going to kill you!” She beat his head on the floor until he stopped moving, believing she had killed him, until she noticed he was still breathing. He was unconscious.

The next morning he got up from the floor, hung-over, battered, and sick—and puzzled. He remembered nothing of what had happened, having been in an apparent alcoholic blackout. All he knew was that he was hurting and sick. “What happened?” he moaned to his wife. “Feels like a truck ran over me. And my ears hurt real bad!”

His wife looked at him long and hard, the fires of anger still raging in her. “A truck did run over you, and that truck was me. And I ain’t putting up with no more of your drunken ways. I beat you last night ‘til I thought you were dead. And if you ever walk back in this house drunk again, I’ll make sure you’re dead the next time.”

He knew she meant it, because she never said things she didn’t mean. He figured that she would kill him—probably shoot him next time. So, he never drank again. Their marriage survived and they both lived into old age. Tag your boots.

As the next illustration of this principle, consider the law of gravity. As we all know, gravity is a universal constant (Just ask Sir Isaac Newton!)—a force that applies around the world. It does not discriminate, and acts equally on each of us regardless of age, sex, race, religious persuasion, or socio-economic status. No matter who you are, gravity will treat all persons equally. There is no discrimination here for malcontents to whine about. We can jokingly note that there has never been a single case in history where the law of gravity showed any favoritism. All people who journey to the top of the Empire State Building, for instance, and jump off, will be treated equally by gravity. No ifs or buts, if you jump you will be a terrific smash on the street below.

Now consider those times when the reader has been on high places and wondered what it would be like to jump off and soar like a bird. Wouldn’t that be thrilling, we think. Most people have had that experience—especially as children when we’re still exploring our world. We can almost experience the thrill of the free fall. Ah, the trip down would be exhilarating—to which all parachutists and bungee jumpers can testify. But we don’t jump. Why? Because we all know the law of gravity will lead to that fatal stop at the end. Tag your boots.

Several thousand years ago, one of the world’s great spiritual leaders, Moses, saw that his people needed some stricter rules to live by, so he went up on a mountain and came back with God’s Ten Commandments. Much like the Marine drill instructor, there were certain rules that God required of his people. But, alas, most people don’t follow them very well, instead treating them more or less like the Ten Suggestions. We no longer seem to require ourselves and others to obey them. Thus, we’ve lost these ancient tag-your-boots rules.

This leads us to an area that needs consideration: namely those roadblocks, currently emphasized in America, that inhibit us from effectively using punishment as a behavioral control for unwanted deviant behavior. One of the primary roadblocks in these times seems to be the confusing matter of rehabilitation vs. punishment. It has gotten to the point that the dream of rehabilitation has insisted that punishment is old school and is no longer needed. Thus, our laws and legal systems have progressed to the point that capital punishment is cruel and unusual. Reasons abound for this stance: he is a sinner, but deserves our forgiveness; Jesus would forgive him, so who are we not to do so; two wrongs don’t make a right; vengeance is mine, says the Lord; criminal behavior is a symptom of mental illness, so he must be treated rather than punished; punishment doesn’t work, only makes the person angrier; etc.

Many reasons are given not to take harsh action against criminals. The problem with this orientation is that it focuses on the criminal, to the neglect of the victim. However, if a person is murdered, then that life is gone forever, and nothing can be done to bring it back. That leaves us with only the perpetrator left to deal with, and it seems we do not have the stomach to apply appropriate punishment. In fact, we seem to no longer be able to determine just what is appropriate punishment for the different crimes.

It is implied by some religions and belief systems that a murdered victim is okay because he is now in the arms of God, gone to Nirvana, is in the spiritual realm of the next world, is one with the Force—whatever. Well, if any of these theories or beliefs is true—and it is so good for the believer—then logically it must also be good for the non-believer. Under this scenario, even the non-believers will experience the realities of the afterlife—though we would hope they would receive some sort of punishment for their earthly misdeeds.

However, if there is no afterlife—and no one can prove it exists—then no one gets any justice when a murderer is rehabilitated, yet the victim is dead and gone forever, missing out on the remaining time of life, while the murderer continues on. Where is the justice in that? The reality of all this is that we have taken the notion of rehabilitation so far that we no longer punish. We have become so tolerant and “forgiving” that we will now endure the most horrible of atrocities, and do little or nothing about them.

It would seem logical that we should punish all criminals after they commit their crimes, then if they accept their punishment in the correct spirit, with a truly remorseful attitude, by paying appropriate restitution to their victims, at that point we will then consider rehabilitation. To illustrate, I was recently leading a group-counseling session of criminals, all of whom were on probation or parole. They were feverishly discussing some recent changes in the ways prisoners were now going to be treated while incarcerated in Georgia. Their biggest concern was a very selfish one, in that some rehabilitation opportunities and privileges were being curtailed or stopped, and they didn’t think that was fair. They said that removing weight-lifting equipment, limiting TV watching, and decreasing educational opportunities was going to make prisoners angrier and would cause more trouble. At no time was there any concern for the victims of their crimes. When I brought up the notion that prison was a place for punishment for crimes, and that punishment ought to come first, they launched into all kinds of rationalizations, that rehabilitation was the only way to prevent future crimes. They had little understanding of the role of punishment in their lives, and I deduced that they had experienced little appropriately applied punishment for misdeeds when they were young. To them prison was a resting spot on the difficult journey of life—but certainly not a well-timed punishment.

A second roadblock is the principle to love one’s neighbor as yourself, or, turn the other cheek. Philosophically this is a cryptic message, especially to an angry person who has been wronged. It is true that if a man kills my brother, and I allow myself to become possessed with anger and a desire for revenge, then it will hurt me psychologically. Feelings of hate hurt the one who hates, but it is almost impossible to let go of hate without justice. Since most religions and civil laws do not allow citizens to take justice into their own hands, then it is the responsibility of the State to secure justice for the people by administering the appropriate punishment to law-breakers. Simply following one’s religious dictates is not enough.  Balancing the scales of justice requires that the church and State each administer their prescribed roles, with the punishment of criminals being the province of the State—with forgiveness (as they are being punished) being the responsibility of the victim’s religious beliefs.

It will be noted, for Christians, that Jesus, before and during his crucifixion, never said that the Romans did not have the authority to kill him, nor did he excuse the two thieves crucified along with him by condemning the Romans’ legal authority Thus, it is clear that Jesus recognized Rome’s authority to punish (Render unto Caesar that which is Caesars). So it would seem that we’ve boiled it down to justice versus love, and that seems to be the sticking point in many people’s minds. And since these concepts appear to be mutually exclusive, most people jump on one side or the other, while berating the opposite side for being so stupid or unfeeling.

To resolve this dilemma ask yourself this question: Am I showing my love if I allow you to break the laws and do nothing to punish you? The following is what is meant by the principle of loving your neighbor as yourself: Mr. Lawbreaker, society cares about you and respects you as a person, and we want you to have as much individual freedom as possible to pursue your own happiness, but if your pursuit conflicts with your neighbor’s rights, then our legal authorities have the right and duty to punish you appropriately, and we will take whatever steps are necessary to ensure that you don’t detract from your neighbors rights. If done properly, this will re-establish your relationship with your neighbor. That is the obligation of the society at large. Whether you get forgiveness and love as a neighbor from me is my burden under my relationship with God.

This religious philosophizing is well and good, and we can take whatever position we like, but our country is not a theocracy; it’s a republic run by secular laws, representing Christians, Muslims, Buddhists, Hindus, atheists, heathens, Satanists, or any other religion one chooses to follow. So. In practice, our nation of laws is the product of the thinking of our Founding Fathers, following a variety of beliefs, sometimes with those beliefs suspended, in order that compromises can be reached to enact laws necessary for us to function in this non-spiritual world. Jesus recognized that these differences are not easily bridged, especially when he talked about rendering unto Caesar that which is Caesar’s, and unto God that which is God’s. This is a critical distinction that we conveniently keep ignoring, but these two worlds are different, and there will always be a wall between them.

Though this secular world is separate from the spiritual one, we nonetheless need to keep them in harmony with each other. Things need to be kept moral and on course. We do not need immoral laws, but we cannot allow religions to impose theological beliefs that conflict with our constitutionally-based laws. Without this congruence our society will eventually dissolve. Religion does not have all the answers needed to effectively deal with the practical, material world, which is the reason we have a secular government as opposed to a theocracy. In this world, the majority of our efforts are spent dealing with matter, information, facts and people–hopefully guided by logic, reason, science, laws and religion. Until we discover better ways to inhibit and prevent negative behavior from our misbehaving brothers and sisters, we must make them tag their boots.

There are endless examples of not tagging our boots, such as parents who don’t set limits with their children, resulting in the kids subsequently walking all over them; welfare agencies that dole out benefits without adequate requirements or consequences; a judicial system that emphasizes rehabilitation over punishment, and gives psychobabble excuses to criminal  behavior; speed limits on our highways that are rarely enforced, and to which no one pays attention; pampered athletes for whom a contract is always something to be renegotiated without fulfilling the original terms, with owners letting them get away with it, and then complaining about the selfishness of the players; politicians who never say what they mean, but always looking good when lying, with the electorate voting them back into office anyway, and then complaining how crooked they are; tobacco company executives who, in spite of all the scientific evidence to the contrary, and a half million deaths per year, continued to lie about the dangers of smoking, yet most of us do nothing and continue to use their products; and millions of couples taking marriage vows before God, the law, and their friends about loving and honoring each other their entire lives, yet divorcing at the slightest provocations—with the children suffering for it. The list is endless.

So, where do we go from here? As you may have already guessed, it is too late to administer loving, child-rearing discipline after the child is grown. Therefore, we have a sizable number of spoiled, undisciplined, whining, lawbreaking people who are causing this society enormous problems. With them, it is too late  to instill the control mechanisms of guilt and fear, which would impel them to obey our laws. However, while punishment will not change their psyches, it will quickly and surely stop certain behaviors in most cases. In a perfect world, we’d like to raise all our children to become model citizens of their own volition, but that is rarely possible. So we have no choice but to make them tag their boots.

 

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TAG YOUR BOOTS
By
Joe Wilkins, Copyright © 2015
(This essay will prove uncomfortable to some readers. I wish it were not so, but hard reality is often that way. Contained herein is a point of view formed over a long counseling career, working with, and trying to help some of the most dysfunctional people in our society. I am demonstrating one system than can be helpful in dealing with unwanted, deviant behavior in our society. It is not the only way to approach the problem, but I contend it is the simplest, most effective way. These ideas are incorporated in Chapter 7, “Tough Love,” of my book How To Raise Successful Children, which is available on Amazon.com.
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Many people today are wondering what is wrong with America? They see crime rising, illegitimate births increasing, illegal immigrants flooding across our borders, a criminal justice system that is more responsive to criminals than to the victims, illegal drugs readily available on many street corners, health care costs rising astronomically, unemployment and poverty increasing, and the national debt skyrocketing. In fact, the problems are so numerous that it is becoming almost impossible to feel what is right with America. And this is causing a low-grade pessimism among the people that is settling over our country like a smothering fog. Most of us do not like it, but we don’t know what, or how, to change it.
Well, there are some things we can do, as illustrated by the following true story.
The United States Marine Corps sends all new recruits to Paris Island, South Carolina for basic training—or for physical and attitude adjustment training, as an ex-Marine friend of mine puts it. These recruits come from all over the country, from all lifestyles, different races, educational levels, and social backgrounds—about as diverse a group one could find. In addition, these men present a special problem to the Marine Corps: in just twelve weeks, the Corps has to get all these different personalities thinking and working alike, with there being little room for individualism. The realities of combat demand they work together as disciplined units, ready to defend our country on a moment’s notice should the need arise.
Seems like an impossible task, doesn’t it? Especially in view of the fact that many other organizations, which have the need to get people working toward society’s goals, are unable to do so. Consider families that can’t get their children to behave; parole boards that are unable to get newly released prisoners to obey the laws; welfare agencies that can’t get people to quit having babies they can’t take care of; treatment facilities that can’t make alcoholics and drug addicts stay clean and sober; abused women who can’t get their husbands to stop beating them. The list is endless, and you could doubtless add many of you own examples.
Nevertheless, I contend there is a way to control such behaviors, if we can only muster up the gumption to take the appropriate actions. And the Marine Corps can show us a productive way.
The year was 1967 and the war in Viet Nam was cooking. The Marines needed new men in large numbers—fast! For one particular platoon it was the tenth week of their basic training, with only two weeks to go. The men were doing well, looking forward to graduation and becoming full-fledged marines.
“Everyone fall out tomorrow for a twenty-mile, forced march,” announced their drill instructor. “I want full field packs—with helmets, double ammo, full canteens–and take an extra pair of boots. Don’t leave anything behind because you’re going to need all your gear. I want you fully outfitted and prepared for anything that might come up.”
The next morning off they marched, each man loaded down with over fifty pounds of gear, headed for Ellis Beach, ten miles away. Finally, after marching, hot and tired, they arrived at the beach, with their feet hurting, and their packs now seeming to weigh hundreds of pounds. They had been resting just a few moments when a truck rumbled up alongside the platoon.
“Okay,” the drill instructor barked out, “rest a minute, drink some water, then take off your boots, tie them together with these tags I’m handing out. Put your last name and serial number on the tags and throw your boots on the truck. Then get out your spare boots and put ‘em on. We’ll be marching back in five minutes.”
Immediately the men hustled to comply with his orders—except for one man. That lone, non-compliant recruit just stood there, looking despondent and hopeless. The drill instructor noticed him soon, and bellowed in his face, “What’s wrong, Marine? Didn’t you hear me? Tag those boots!”
“But, sir—I—I can’t,” he blurted out in desperation.
“And why not?” challenged the drill instructor.
“Because I didn’t bring my extra boots.”
“Well, that’s just too bad. Off with those boots—now!”
The recruit was desperate now. “But, sir, he implored, “I’ll have to march back barefooted.”
The drill instructor was losing patience. “Tag those boots!” he screamed.
The recruit immediately sat down and hurriedly took off his boots. He looked around at the others, but realized there would be no sympathy from them. There was disdain and condemnation in their faces.
Then the platoon began the march back. They hiked through scrub and briars, palmettos and sandspurs, hot asphalt and concrete. The drill instructor intentionally made the trip back more difficult, causing the barefooted recruit all the pain imaginable. After a while, the recruit could take no more, and dropped out of formation by the side of the road, while the others marched on. He was then ordered into the truck and taken straight to the brig, where he “cooled his heels” for several days, wondering nervously what was going to happen to him. However, after the drill instructor figured he had “learned his lesson,” he rejoined his platoon. He was a model marine from then on.
The recruit had learned his lesson well—and fast. Very few words were exchanged. No attempts were made to find out why he had left his boots behind. He was not referred to a counselor to determine the source of his rebellion and passive-aggressive anger toward the Marine Corps. No attempt was made to reason with him. There was no getting the other men involved, other than they had only viewed his behavior, and how he was dealt with. This was a simple case of, “If you don’t do as I say, then something bad will happen to you!” Tag your boots!
Now some readers may think the drill instructor was too harsh, that the punishment was cruel and unusual. However, others may think he should have been made to march the whole way back, and, doubtless, some drill instructors may have done just that. But the bottom line is the technique worked. The Marines Corps reinforced its authority, the recruit learned a valuable lesson, the platoon progressed forward, and everyone graduated from basic training as full-fledged marines. One could wonder what kind of marines they would have become if the wayward recruit had gotten away with his scheme and was not punished. I contend the platoon would not have been as dedicated and efficient. Thus, the punishment was appropriate.
With this incident, we see illustrated a principle that is the whole point of this essay: if we want to prevent people from committing certain objectionable behaviors, then we must follow their misdeeds with consequences they do not want to happen. However, this punishment must be used selectively and in an appropriate manner. It’s clear that “tagging your boots” is one form of punishment, and punishment is looked upon as anathema by many in our society. Some even view punishment as evil, and should be avoided at all costs. A few years ago, a young man in Singapore broke one of their laws, and was sentenced to be whipped with canes, causing a tremendous uproar around the world—especially with a huge portion of American society, incensed that Singapore would have the audacity to punish a lawbreaker in such a manner.
Since punishment is looked upon by many as one might view a rattlesnake, the science of psychology might allay those feelings somewhat. Scientific studies have repeatedly shown that learned responses of avoidance and fear have a strong impact on our personality development when we are young. Punishment is essential to the development of these inhibitory emotions, which help control inappropriate behaviors that do not serve the individual and the community well. People with no fear and guilt can be dangerous, because they have no internal “inhibitors” that prevent them from committing certain deeds. Conversely, people with a healthy set of fear and guilt feelings are not likely to break many of society’s rules or laws, because these are feelings people tend to avoid, thus the behavior causing them rarely occurs. Misdeeds committed by those who don’t feel guilty—because they weren’t punished as children in a responsible, loving manner—will be repeated over and over.
Other research shows that, with young boys, it is more important that the father administer such discipline rather than the mother. A mother simply has less power to instill appropriate fear and guilt in a son than does the father—although the mother does have some influence. However, as young boys mature, the social-identity process impels them toward males as role models, and a good father is the best model.
This speaks to a disturbing trend currently in our society, whereby we condone and reward single motherhood, producing legions of young men who do not know how to behave as responsible males, because they adopt males outside their families as role models, males who do not always have their best interests at heart. An adolescent male, loaded with testosterone and aggressive hormones, who has not been taught by significant males the proper roles of guilt, shame, and fear, is trouble on the rise. This capacity for fear and guilt is the end product of a sequence of child-rearing activities, using love-oriented punishment, leading to strong identification with the same sex parent. To put it more simply, the best drill instructors for young men in boot camp are males.
One study showed that many anti-social boys tend to come from those homes where the parents were cold, distant, or absent—not from homes that disciplined and punished with love. Sparing the loving rod of discipline tends to produce incomplete children.
Social psychology clearly shows us the complexity of reward and punishment on the development of children’s moral codes and inhibitions, with their willingness to follow society’s rules. Most criminals are people who have not been taught when they were young how to behave properly. However, parents are not totally to blame here: the schools, TV, literature, peers, gangs, and other aspects of our society share in the upbringing of our children, and often teach and reinforce many negative attitudes and behavior. If one accepts the premise that the total society is to blame for criminal behavior, we are then left with a huge, apparently unsolvable dilemma: that, in a free republic, we can’t seem to unite sufficiently to control all these dysfunctional “teachers” of our children to prevent the production of criminals. So, we throw up our hands in despair and do little to solve the problem.
However, complaining is but a temporary catharsis, engaged in by politicians, the media, and citizens of rhetoric. Sensible people know that once our wayward children reach adulthood, as a practical matter, it’s too late to teach them those lessons they needed to learn as children. The horse is already out of the barn, so to speak.
Thus, with the adult criminal we are left with only one option: we have to do whatever is necessary to prevent people from committing crimes. We can’t go inside the heads of such people and change dysfunctional attitudes at this late date—something that is only occassionaly possible using psychotherapeutic techniques, which are slow and prohibitively expensive, and rarely work. (That old joke applies very well here: How many counselors does it take to change a light bulb? A lot, but the bulb has to really want to change.) Thus for people who continuously break laws, if they have no internal roadmap of fear or guilt to stop them, then we as a society must give them some sort of external fear that will stop them. We have to use the threat of punishment to stop their misdeeds. It’s our primary option. Tag your boots!
In alcohol and drug treatment there is a rule that says that once someone becomes physically addicted, they will never be able to safely drink or use drugs again without suffering serious—and often fatal—consequences. Only when the addict arrives at the point where this reality is true for him or her, is there an improved chance for sobriety. If the addict realizes that continued use of alcohol or drugs will cause that person to die or go crazy, there will then be an improved chance for sobriety. The chemical that the addict used to love and cherish so much, becomes the punisher. Tag your boots!
Next, consider the drug smuggler. Anyone with the proper know-how can fly to south America, buy some cocaine, re-enter the United States, sell the cocaine, and make a huge profit, with very little chance of getting caught. This behavior is going on all the time, as many of my former clients related to me in detail. And these smugglers are killing and ruining more lives than can be imagined—costing our society an enormous price. But the drug dealers do not care, and they feel no guilt or fear. Their motivation is greed, with no concern about the human destruction they are causing. There is no little voice inside them saying, “Don’t do that! It’s wrong!” They do it anyway.
The question has become, how do we stop them? Over the years, we have tried many things that do not work: rehabilitation programs, weak prison terms, confiscation of ill-gotten property, increasing public awareness, and patrolling the nation’s point of entries. And each year the smuggling and drug abuse increases, while the public demands more drugs.
But there’s one thing we haven’t done; we have not made these smugglers and dealers tag their boots. How can we do this? Pass and implement laws that say, “If you smuggle drugs into this country, or sell drugs, we’ll catch you, and when we do you will be quickly prosecuted–and executed.” Then the public can sit back and watch the drug trafficking grind to a halt. Tag your boots.
Next, consider illegal immigration. This problem is now out of control, and the Congress and the President hasn’t the knowledge or will to fix it. Some people abroad have the notion that America is the solution to the world’s problems, with the effect that many people in less fortunate parts of the world want to come to America to improve their lives—and there are many Americans willing to let them come, legal or not. Thus, each day thousands of illegal immigrants slip across our borders. If we continue to allow this, it can bankrupt our social-welfare, educational, and work-related systems. With the world’s population projected to double within the next fifty years, the conditions pushing this illegal immigration trend will only increase, thus the problem is not going away.
To get a true fix on the current immigration situation, look at it from an illegal immigrant’s perspective. Here he is living in Mexico or Central America, living in squalor, with no job, no hope for the future, too many children, and a poor societal support system. His children will have a worse life than him, because the future is grim. The population is exploding out of control, resources are dwindling, and the political leaders are helpless to turn things around. It is evident that everyone will have to do with less. However, he has learned that in America, there exists everything he wants and needs. So, one night he slips across the border—and it doesn’t matter if the border patrol sees him or not, because he knows they are under orders not to use force. Eventually he will get a job from someone who is desperate for cheap labor, who will pay him with cash that will not be reported to the government. And even if he is caught, they will simply load him onto an air-conditioned bus and drive him back across the border, where he will keep trying to cross again. He can’t lose. And once he finally gets settled in America, he can manipulate the system, get some welfare benefits and food stamps, make arrangements to get his family across, and send his children to the wonderful, free schools. What a country!
But one thing bothers him; he heard one border guard being interviewed on the radio, saying that thousands of illegal immigrants cross the border each day, and he is powerless to stop them, because he has been forbidden to use force. All he can do is holler on the bullhorn and tell them to go back home—which they never do because there is no punishment for crossing the border. Then the guard says that if he were allowed to shoot just one immigrant—after fair warning—the immigrant flow would stop. It is certain that if prospective illegal immigrants knew they would be shot if they attempted the crossing, they wouldn’t try it. And if no one tried it, no one would be shot. But there is no boot- tagging in the US Immigration Service.
Already some readers of this essay are squirming and shifting in their chairs. They think this is too extreme—shooting illegal immigrants! What would the carnage be like? Moreover, how do you shoot just one illegal immigrant. America is constitutionally incapable of doing this, given the current state of the American psyche. However, there would be less carnage with boot-tagging than without it, and I am sure we could develop other boot-tagging options to replace the shooting of immigrants. With swift, sure consequences hanging over their heads, most people will quit doing those things they shouldn’t. And those few who continue their bad ways—and are dealt with severely—wouldn’t get much sympathy from most Americans. We will save that for the victims.
A woman friend of mine married a man from Iran, with whom she had three sons. Occasionally they would go back to Iran to visit his relatives. One day she absent-mindedly left her purse, with considerable cash in it, on a store counter for several hours after leaving. When she realized what she had done, she rushed back to the store to retrieve it—and it was still in the same place where she had left it. All her cash and possessions were still within; no one had touched or disturbed it. She said that was not unusual in Iran because there is little thievery. Why? Because in Iran, convicted thieves are punished by having a hand cut off! And she said she didn’t see anyone with missing hands. She concluded that thievery had been abolished in Iran. Tag your boots!
Consider the traffic light. Did you ever notice that everyone stops for the red light: rich, poor, crooks, the mentally ill, drunks, rapists, murderers, middle-class, lower-class, high-class—virtually every- one in societies around the world. You name the group and they all stop for red lights. Why do they obey this rule, yet disregard others that we value, which are just as important? It is because the consequence of going through a red light is a boot-tagging situation, whereby the offender stands a high probability of being smashed into by another vehicle.
A counselor friend of mine tells the story about a relative of his in rural Alabama, who had a husband who was “bad to drink,” as they called drunkenness in that area. For years this alcoholic’s main form of recreation was to get roaring drunk several times a month, then come home and beat up and terrorize his wife and children. His wife had endured this for years because she had been taught by her parents and her church to be subservient and obedient to her husband.
But the day came when her tolerance was exhausted; she could endure it no more. One day he came home drunk again, and began calling her derogatory names–then began hitting her. That did it!
For all those years, she had endured his abuse—but no more! This was it—her pot was boiling over! This enraged woman, suddenly energized to the strength of Wonder Woman by her years of pent-up anger, knocked her staggering husband to the floor with a mighty blow with her fist. Then she jumped on top of him, grabbed him by both ears and began beating his head on the floor, screaming, “You drunken bastard, you no-good-son-of-a-bitch, you lousy excuse of a man. I’m going to kill you!” She beat his head on the floor until he stopped moving, believing she had killed him, until she noticed he was still breathing. He was unconscious.
The next morning he got up from the floor, hung-over, battered, and sick—and puzzled. He remembered nothing of what had happened, having been in an apparent alcoholic blackout. All he knew was that he was hurting and sick. “What happened?” he moaned to his wife. “Feels like a truck ran over me. And my ears hurt real bad!”
His wife looked at him long and hard, the fires of anger still raging in her. “A truck did run over you, and that truck was me. And I ain’t putting up with no more of your drunken ways. I beat you last night ‘til I thought you were dead. And if you ever walk back in this house drunk again, I’ll make sure you’re dead the next time.”
He knew she meant it, because she never said things she didn’t mean. He figured that she would kill him—probably shoot him next time. So, he never drank again. Their marriage survived and they both lived into old age. Tag your boots.
As the next illustration of this principle, consider the law of gravity. As we all know, gravity is a universal constant (Just ask Sir Isaac Newton!)—a force that applies around the world. It does not discriminate, and acts equally on each of us regardless of age, sex, race, religious persuasion, or socio-economic status. No matter who you are, gravity will treat all persons equally. There is no discrimination here for malcontents to whine about. We can jokingly note that there has never been a single case in history where the law of gravity showed any favoritism. All people who journey to the top of the Empire State Building, for instance, and jump off, will be treated equally by gravity. No ifs or buts, if you jump you will be a terrific smash on the street below.
Now consider those times when the reader has been on high places and wondered what it would be like to jump off and soar like a bird. Wouldn’t that be thrilling, we think. Most people have had that experience—especially as children when we’re still exploring our world. We can almost experience the thrill of the free fall. Ah, the trip down would be exhilarating—to which all parachutists and bungee jumpers can testify. But we don’t jump. Why? Because we all know the law of gravity will lead to that fatal stop at the end. Tag your boots.
Several thousand years ago, one of the world’s great spiritual leaders, Moses, saw that his people needed some stricter rules to live by, so he went up on a mountain and came back with God’s Ten Commandments. Much like the Marine drill instructor, there were certain rules that God required of his people. But, alas, most people don’t follow them very well, instead treating them more or less like the Ten Suggestions. We no longer seem to require ourselves and others to obey them. Thus, we’ve lost these ancient tag-your-boots rules.
This leads us to an area that needs consideration: namely those roadblocks, currently emphasized in America, that inhibit us from effectively using punishment as a behavioral control for unwanted deviant behavior. One of the primary roadblocks in these times seems to be the confusing matter of rehabilitation vs. punishment. It has gotten to the point that the dream of rehabilitation has insisted that punishment is old school and is no longer needed. Thus, our laws and legal systems have progressed to the point that capital punishment is cruel and unusual. Reasons abound for this stance: he is a sinner, but deserves our forgiveness; Jesus would forgive him, so who are we not to do so; two wrongs don’t make a right; vengeance is mine, says the Lord; criminal behavior is a symptom of mental illness, so he must be treated rather than punished; punishment doesn’t work, only makes the person angrier; etc.
Many reasons are given not to take harsh action against criminals. The problem with this orientation is that it focuses on the criminal, to the neglect of the victim. However, if a person is murdered, then that life is gone forever, and nothing can be done to bring it back. That leaves us with only the perpetrator left to deal with, and it seems we do not have the stomach to apply appropriate punishment. In fact, we seem to no longer be able to determine just what is appropriate punishment for the different crimes.
It is implied by some religions and belief systems that a murdered victim is okay because he is now in the arms of God, gone to Nirvana, is in the spiritual realm of the next world, is one with the Force—whatever. Well, if any of these theories or beliefs is true—and it is so good for the believer—then logically it must also be good for the non-believer. Under this scenario, even the non-believers will experience the realities of the afterlife—though we would hope they would receive some sort of punishment for their earthly misdeeds.
However, if there is no afterlife—and no one can prove it exists—then no one gets any justice when a murderer is rehabilitated, yet the victim is dead and gone forever, missing out on the remaining time of life, while the murderer continues on. Where is the justice in that? The reality of all this is that we have taken the notion of rehabilitation so far that we no longer punish. We have become so tolerant and “forgiving” that we will now endure the most horrible of atrocities, and do little or nothing about them.
It would seem logical that we should punish all criminals after they commit their crimes, then if they accept their punishment in the correct spirit, with a truly remorseful attitude, by paying appropriate restitution to their victims, at that point we will then consider rehabilitation. To illustrate, I was recently leading a group-counseling session of criminals, all of whom were on probation or parole. They were feverishly discussing some recent changes in the ways prisoners were now going to be treated while incarcerated in Georgia. Their biggest concern was a very selfish one, in that some rehabilitation opportunities and privileges were being curtailed or stopped, and they didn’t think that was fair. They said that removing weight-lifting equipment, limiting TV watching, and decreasing educational opportunities was going to make prisoners angrier and would cause more trouble. At no time was there any concern for the victims of their crimes. When I brought up the notion that prison was a place for punishment for crimes, and that punishment ought to come first, they launched into all kinds of rationalizations, that rehabilitation was the only way to prevent future crimes. They had little understanding of the role of punishment in their lives, and I deduced that they had experienced little appropriately applied punishment for misdeeds when they were young. To them prison was a resting spot on the difficult journey of life—but certainly not a well-timed punishment.
A second roadblock is the principle to love one’s neighbor as yourself, or, turn the other cheek. Philosophically this is a cryptic message, especially to an angry person who has been wronged. It is true that if a man kills my brother, and I allow myself to become possessed with anger and a desire for revenge, then it will hurt me psychologically. Feelings of hate hurt the one who hates, but it is almost impossible to let go of hate without justice. Since most religions and civil laws do not allow citizens to take justice into their own hands, then it is the responsibility of the State to secure justice for the people by administering the appropriate punishment to law-breakers. Simply following one’s religious dictates is not enough. Balancing the scales of justice requires that the church and State each administer their prescribed roles, with the punishment of criminals being the province of the State—with forgiveness (as they are being punished) being the responsibility of the victim’s religious beliefs.
It will be noted, for Christians, that Jesus, before and during his crucifixion, never said that the Romans did not have the authority to kill him, nor did he excuse the two thieves crucified along with him by condemning the Romans’ legal authority Thus, it is clear that Jesus recognized Rome’s authority to punish (Render unto Caesar that which is Caesars). So it would seem that we’ve boiled it down to justice versus love, and that seems to be the sticking point in many people’s minds. And since these concepts appear to be mutually exclusive, most people jump on one side or the other, while berating the opposite side for being so stupid or unfeeling.
To resolve this dilemma ask yourself this question: Am I showing my love if I allow you to break the laws and do nothing to punish you? The following is what is meant by the principle of loving your neighbor as yourself: Mr. Lawbreaker, society cares about you and respects you as a person, and we want you to have as much individual freedom as possible to pursue your own happiness, but if your pursuit conflicts with your neighbor’s rights, then our legal authorities have the right and duty to punish you appropriately, and we will take whatever steps are necessary to ensure that you don’t detract from your neighbors rights. If done properly, this will re-establish your relationship with your neighbor. That is the obligation of the society at large. Whether you get forgiveness and love as a neighbor from me is my burden under my relationship with God.
This religious philosophizing is well and good, and we can take whatever position we like, but our country is not a theocracy; it’s a republic run by secular laws, representing Christians, Muslims, Buddhists, Hindus, atheists, heathens, Satanists, or any other religion one chooses to follow. So. In practice, our nation of laws is the product of the thinking of our Founding Fathers, following a variety of beliefs, sometimes with those beliefs suspended, in order that compromises can be reached to enact laws necessary for us to function in this non-spiritual world. Jesus recognized that these differences are not easily bridged, especially when he talked about rendering unto Caesar that which is Caesar’s, and unto God that which is God’s. This is a critical distinction that we conveniently keep ignoring, but these two worlds are different, and there will always be a wall between them.
Though this secular world is separate from the spiritual one, we nonetheless need to keep them in harmony with each other. Things need to be kept moral and on course. We do not need immoral laws, but we cannot allow religions to impose theological beliefs that conflict with our constitutionally-based laws. Without this congruence our society will eventually dissolve. Religion does not have all the answers needed to effectively deal with the practical, material world, which is the reason we have a secular government as opposed to a theocracy. In this world, the majority of our efforts are spent dealing with matter, information, facts and people–hopefully guided by logic, reason, science, laws and religion. Until we discover better ways to inhibit and prevent negative behavior from our misbehaving brothers and sisters, we must make them tag their boots.
There are endless examples of not tagging our boots, such as parents who don’t set limits with their children, resulting in the kids subsequently walking all over them; welfare agencies that dole out benefits without adequate requirements or consequences; a judicial system that emphasizes rehabilitation over punishment, and gives psychobabble excuses to criminal behavior; speed limits on our highways that are rarely enforced, and to which no one pays attention; pampered athletes for whom a contract is always something to be renegotiated without fulfilling the original terms, with owners letting them get away with it, and then complaining about the selfishness of the players; politicians who never say what they mean, but always looking good when lying, with the electorate voting them back into office anyway, and then complaining how crooked they are; tobacco company executives who, in spite of all the scientific evidence to the contrary, and a half million deaths per year, continued to lie about the dangers of smoking, yet most of us do nothing and continue to use their products; and millions of couples taking marriage vows before God, the law, and their friends about loving and honoring each other their entire lives, yet divorcing at the slightest provocations—with the children suffering for it. The list is endless.
So, where do we go from here? As you may have already guessed, it is too late to administer loving, child-rearing discipline after the child is grown. Therefore, we have a sizable number of spoiled, undisciplined, whining, lawbreaking people who are causing this society enormous problems. With them, it is too late to instill the control mechanisms of guilt and fear, which would impel them to obey our laws. However, while punishment will not change their psyches, it will quickly and surely stop certain behaviors in most cases. In a perfect world, we’d like to raise all our children to become model citizens of their own volition, but that is rarely possible. So we have no choice but to make them tag their boots.

THE END

THE MISSING KEYS

There is a current ad on television about a woman who has misplaced her keys and can not locate them. After a diligent search, her husband finds them in the refrigerator, where she absent-mindedly had misplaced them. Ostensibly, she is in the beginning stages of Alzheimers disease, which is sad, to say the least.

However, “the case of the missing keys,” or the misplacement of other items, of which most adults are victims on occasions, are rarely symptoms of the beginnings of Alzheimers. Among my many friends, most of whom are ages 50 to 90, with some younger folks also, this phenomenon of misplacing everyday items, is quite common. And none of us have Alzheimers. Rather, these instances are usually cases of inattention to the details at hand, while the mind is preoccupied with larger tasks.

The other day, after a round of golf, with conversations among several older golfing companions–who are always complaining about misplacing their keys and other items–I noticed that everyone’s memory was quite good at recalling trivia from past experiences, sometimes in excruciating detail. And they could give us detailed analysis of every shot made during that day’s round of golf! Yet these same people complained of suffering from the “missing keys syndrome.”

From all this, it seems to me that this phenomenon is caused primarily by 1) having a major project or event going on, which in certain situations– such as doubt about doing the job, will it be too expensive etc.– can “leak down” and  interfere with 2) the actual  activities necessary to accomplish the main goal, which can also be interrupted by outside interference, unfocused thinking, and internal mental distractions–not keeping one’s mind on the job at hand!   For example, recently my washing machine broke down, and I decided to repair it myself, since I am handy at such tasks. After obtaining all the needed new parts, I began the work, with my mind focusing on fixing the machine; but soon I was distracted by thoughts of wondering if  I could do it, then debating with myself as to whether I should have called a serviceman or not.

Soon, I noticed I couldn’t find a special wrench I had used a short time before, but was needed to complete the job. I searched for a half hour in my basement, but could not find it. I then gave up for the day, hoping I would remember later. The next day, as I went to answer the phone, there was the wrench by the telephone, where I had casually placed it when my work was interrupted by an emergency phone call from a friend. I picked up the wrench and completed the repair job. In this case, losing track of the wrench, was caused by pre-occupied thinking and the phone distraction.

From all this, I have recommendations to help us all with this “missing keys” problem. 1) Whenever you are placing an object somewhere, verbalize the action, such as, “I am placing my keys on the counter next to the refrigerator.” You can repeat the verbalization a time or two, making the memory trace stronger. 2) Have a specific place to put keys and other items when you are through with them. One lady has a special rack in her kitchen where she hangs all her keys as soon as she is through with them. She said that’s the only place they will ever be, if they’re not in her pocketbook. Professional mechanics tell me they have specific places to put their tools after use, such as tool belts, tool boxes, or tool cabinets. They can’t afford to misplace tools, because time is money, and they don’t want to waste it looking for tools. 3) Keep your mind on what you’re doing at the moment and try to prevent interruptions.

Readers may have other suggestions, and I hope they will share them with their friends!


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